Singled Out But Not Down

This is my first post to my new blog. Even if I'm the only one to read it, it is a chronicle of my new life as a single mum. I have learned as I have grown older that despite our most thoroughly lain down plans, we don't make them alone. Other factors and people intervene to forever alter the course of our lives. As a new mum also, I have had a steep learning curve. Scratch that, it's been a cliff dive - learn to fly or fall. I'm flapping as fast as I can. With ever beat of my wings I find something else out about myself, my inner strength and resourcefulness. I have also learned the indispensability of a good pot of coffee!
Some of my lessons I'd like to share to you fellow newly single mums or even if you've been single a while or just a new mum, that I think may be helpful:
1) Don't panic - this is paramount. You can't change it, you're in it and panicking WILL make this worse for you. You aren't the first or the last, you will survive if you keep your wits about you. You are strong, you've created a life, making a life for you and your kid(s) from here forward is, in comparison, easier.
2) Realize the power of "mummy time" - even if its just 5 minutes of being selfish, playing solitaire or screaming in the car by yourself, you need to do it to be a better mum.
3) Never underestimate the power of: a pacifier, a noise machine, exersaucer, vibrating chair other distraction for your baby. If you ever intend on sleeping or cleaning your house again, these are your best friends.
4) Taking advice: everyone has advice (even me, as you are currently reading) when it comes to motherhood. Accept it graciously and do what is best for you and your baby. Even the doctor will have her advice but unless anyone of these people will be there with you at 3 am while your child screams, take it with a grain of salt.

As I learn I will pass along my hard won lessons to my blog. My wish is that you find hope, comfort and the odd giggle when you read my blog. Remember: you may have been singled out but you're not down and out. This wont be the end of your story.

bye for now dolls!!